Understanding: Trying to understand the difficulties and experiences of the child is the first step in building a strong relationship. This understanding has three levels: mental, conscious and neurological. From a neurological level, the child’s brain communicates with the brain of the person they are interacting with, whether they are aware or not. This means that the child is able to read or sense the moods and intentions of others. The two skills needed for engagement with others is listening and observing. It is a conscious, yet demanding task that comes naturally to some children than to others. These skills get enhanced with time and practice. On an impersonal level, it is important to set relationships based on empathy, intervention and full support of the child’s actions.
Responsiveness: Responding to others in a relationship through signals and words is a characteristic feature of a healthy relationship. The communication can either be nonverbal—through body language or change in facial expressions, or by the use of verbal language. Younger children learn to respond and communicate through signals that make sense to them. It is the job of their caregivers to recognize these signs and communicate to the children in a manner that conveys their own message to them. This responsiveness between the child and parents helps to form a stronger bond between them.
Lucid Communication: A form of communication that is easily understood by all the people in a relationship is important. This will enable the children to learn and practice new methods of communication so that they can let their needs be known to other people. It also helps the child to learn patience and listen to other people, overview conversations they are not a part of, build relationships based on closeness and warmth, and support their parents in the decisions that they make for them.
Managing Communication Breakdowns: It is important for parents to understand and acknowledge the breakdown of communication in their relationship with the child. It helps to restore connection with the child and understand the depth of their problems.
Openness About Emotions: Not only should the parents try to understand the feelings of the child, but the child also needs to learn how to understand their parents’ emotions, both positive and negative ones. Sharing your feelings with children will help them mature emotionally. This development of emotional empathy is a sign of great progress in the long term development of the child. Scientists say that emotional development starts from an early stage in life and becomes a significant feature of overall brain development. The parents must also try to teach the child to label the emotions that they are expressing, help them to come up with solutions to problems, and deal with issues that are upsetting them.
Knowing and building strength: The parents should try to be attentive towards the strengths of the child, how competent they are, and not concentrate on the problems and weaknesses of the child. By concentrating more on the strength than weakness, a parent can help their child develop better emotionally.
Stress Management: Events that instigate positive stress can be learned to controlled by a child with proper guidance from family members and caregivers. This stimulus is an integral part of the proper development of the child. By placing limits on certain activities, the parents put moderate pressure on the child. It activates healthy behavioural and neurological development in the child. This sort of challenging atmosphere keeps the child healthy, and challenges them continuously, therefore instilling moral values in the child and improving their relationship with family members.
Storytelling: Building a relationship with a child is difficult if there is no understanding with the parent. Telling stories to children helps them understand the meaning of situations. Stories help to eradicate confusion and give the children easy narratives that are easy to remember and understand. It also helps the child understand that every person is unique because of how a person is represented in a story. Storytelling becomes an important aspect in the mental development of the child. It helps the child to make connections between the past, present, and the future. It also makes the child aware of their own identity. With a greater understanding of what is happening around them, a child communicates with others better and forms stronger bonds with parents and peers.